Diary Of A Black Girl

Wife… you deserve the label… but you’ve been hurt before so you sore and don’t feel you’re able. Tried that, didn’t work, got impossible standards” –Wale Folarin; Rapper

One of the most disappointing things to me these days in my community is the loss of hope in love. Most black women have actually given up on the dream of being a wife and having a good family. And it leads them to “Think like a man”. I know the premise of Steve Harvey’s book wasn’t for women to become emotionless love dodgers like most men but somewhere his message got lost in translation with black women. I’m 26 yrs dumb and most of the black women in my generation really don’t believe in marriage anymore. Mostly because they didn’t get it right the first time with the first love. Or they know too many cheating men. The irony is in accepting this discouraging fate they play into the hands of the very men that they, in essence, say they want no part of by not wanting to be married.

It’s sad. To me once a woman stops believing in the beauty of love, she’s dead. That’s when most women come up with unrealistic and superficial standards. “Well ain’t none of these niggas gone do right so I might as well get me one with money”. They start believing that living a lifestyle that society accepts for men is acceptable for women. Those are the type of men that want you to be cold. Discouraged. Affectionless. No priority for marriage or commitment. They prey on that. They smell it like a shark smells blood in the water. The minute a female gets that mentality she’ll get as much attention she can handle. Until the boy matures to a man and achieves some financial success he’s more than likely not looking to settle down. He wants the one that has no expectations so he can do as little as possible yet receive the physical part of her. And no matter how much women try, most of them deep down are wired emotionally. That’s why they still end up being loyal or caught up into that same guy that’s giving them nothing while he’s using the excuse that “I told you I didn’t want no girlfriend from the beginning and you was cool with it”. I’m sorry to state the obvious, but we live in a double standard society. We always will. Don’t think like a man, think like a woman. Live like a woman. Carry yourself like a woman. Love like a woman. Because if you don’t, those same men will one day want more, and go get it from a woman that didn’t lose sight of those things. I’ll say it again, Life without love is death! Don’t stop believing in it, don’t stop wanting to be married…. Just choose better men and look at what you’re attracted to. I’m not saying every girl should be trying to fall in love at 13, or that there’s an abundance of men out here ready to settle at 21, or that males and females should never have a carefree period where marriage isn’t their priority but don’t lose sight of the finish line. Who wants to be 70 and alone? If you do what you’ve always done then you’ll get what you’ve always got!


Just my thoughts, 

Travis Cochran

Is True Happiness Attainable?

I wonder what true happiness means. Have I already felt it? Will I ever know what it means? Do you know what it means to be happy? I guess it depends on the person really. I always hear people say when you love what you do for a living then you're truly happy. Some people base their happiness on how happy they are with someone. Of course we all have heard that true happiness comes from your relationship with God and I'd probably need to work on mine a little more I think. One of my good friends says he's happy when he's on the porch in the summer with a drink in his hand. I guess happiness is when your mind wanders away from whatever is bothering you at the time. (Dope this is the first time I ever thought of that lol). They say all good things must come to an end and when you think about they almost always do so you have to always search for something that makes you happy. This can either lead to you finding whatever it is or you just keep searching and that'll keep you alive. 

You too good now?

Who the fuck do you think you are? Made a little money now you too good huh? Red Lobster, 2 for 20, Cheesecake.... When did we become too good to eat a sandwich? $200 date my ass! If you expect that off the rip go find a twitter nigga for that. Let me get back I got knocked off my pivot real quick. I remember when I was younger a sandwich was the perfect meal no matter what! Even a struggle sandwich (ketchup and bread) was like a 3 course meal. Everybody too good for bologna now but had hella red string in the trash can from eating it back in the day. Me and my mom used to go in on a pack of ham with the little cheese pieces in it. Bottom line man food is wayyyy too expensive these days then you got gas prices and Nikes to pay for. My suggestion is get them sandwiches poppin for lunch and even dinner. Date night tell her y'all doing sandwiches and a picnic at the park. Even the most basic chick will be throwing you the box like she work for FedEx trust me. Try doing this for at least 2-3 months and see how much you save! 

WYV?

Sitting here in a random moment and some Jordan shorts the word vice popped up in my head and kept repeating itself. So I thought about what it really meant. It's a bad habit or a sin basically. But to me it's something that grips you and turns into an inner struggle.  Could be big or small tho. A bad habit could be peeing on the seat. A vice could be that 24 year old bartender your wife don't and can't know about or that $50 that go to the Georgia lottery at 4:32 pm every Friday. I wonder how people who let drugs take their soul feel... Like something can be so strong that it alters the way you live or could've lived. You've lost everything and most importantly the ability to even tell yourself to stop. Crazy right? Think about that for a minute and think about something that just had a grip on you. 

Black Panties

"Ms. mother nature I pray that our daughters carry and favor your genes

And when you take off your jeans you get all the me that you need!" -Wale; Rapper

Damn girl, how you feel when u got them on?
Out the shower and the towel, smelling good
Nothing but black panties on
Looking in the mirror you even turning yourself on
So sexy it erects me and makes me helpless from
What you exude, even when you're no longer nude
Cuz truly being sexy is an attitude
Ya mentality is grabbing me
You want me grabbing you
It don't make you less of a woman cuz u want me inside of you
In your presence I can't help it
You're like a Christmas present
The fact that you love the eroticism
As much as the next nigga
Doesn't mean you don't deserve the best nigga
Only we expect our women
To be perfect women
Like our existence didn't come from
A man sexing a woman
I just wanna caress you woman
I wanna have you in a dressing room.... And undress you woman
I want us at church
And them black panties a mess for me woman
I know you think about it often
I think women should fantasize about it often
Every fantasy u desire
With me is possible
Nymphomaniac
Let me explore your climax
Cuz in this mirror
All you have is some sexy black panties on
Turning yourself on
And I'm helpless from
What you exude, even when you're no longer nude
Cuz truly being sexy is an attitude


This was inspired by the misconception today that women that are super sexual have to be hoes. Couldn't be further from the truth. There's a fine line between being sexy and real sexual and being a hoe with her ass out all the time. Women embrace those sexual thoughts. Act on them. Feel sexy. Dress sexy. Just leave something to the imagination and be careful who you let run wild with that imagination of yours.