Change Comes from Within

Last night we set ourselves back. I mean I get it. People are outraged over the decision to not indict a white police officer for murdering a black youth. Regardless of the circumstances surrounding it Mike Brown shouldn't have been killed. It seems like everybody is ready to point the finger and ready to tear down a city that they have to live in and maybe even rebuild. At some point we have to ask ourselves what can we do as a people to prevent this type of injustice moving forward? I love the passion shown during these types of times but we need to display that same passion and need to protest against blacks killing each other. It's crazy how the robbing and killing of another black man gets celebrated but it's war when a white person does it. We have to be smarter and more aware of the traps that we fall into. This is modern day slavery and the way we overcome it is to stop all the bullshit. I've seen so many people say they fear for their sons. Why? I don't fear for mine or my son's life because I act accordingly and I'll teach him the same. I'm not saying racial injustice won't happen but it definitely reduces the chances. Now I'm seeing everybody saying they're boycotting Black Friday. What exactly is that going to do? I say stop the looting which does absolutely nothing for the cause. People are looking like fools and I'm sure MikeBrown's family isn't pleased. That's not going to bring him back. That's not going to end racism. That's just adding to the problem. If the people want to take action we need to start at home and in our own neighborhoods. Start at home and let your children know they're just as valuable as the white kids across the street. Let them know they can be anything and do anything. Make sure they're being properly educated. Help them to understand that violence isn't the best way to go. Now is the time to come together as a people and say we value each other. We need to look out for each other. Realize who the enemy is. It's not the white man. We're slaves of our own minds. If we're never taught there's a better way how will we ever know? I pray for the everyone involved in the tragedy in Ferguson and I hope it gets better but violence and looting isn't the answer. We need to open our eyes and use our minds to truly be free. 

The Universe is Your Friend

I'm a firm believer in the type of energy you put out will be the energy you get. Not necessarily the definition of karma everybody warns you about. I don't think every action will yield an equal action, but I do think when you purposely do bad things with the intent to hurt or when you do good with no expectation of receiving anything you will get in return what you deserve. I watched a film called "The Secret" a few weeks ago and it dealt with the Law of Attraction. It simply states the energy you give and what you ask the universe for will give you what you ask for. Positive thoughts become actions and manifest themselves into something great. You just have to do your part which is nothing when you think about it. If you got a dream or goal all you have to do is grind it out and believe the universe rocks with you that much to where you can want something so bad you'll actually get it. I said before we don't know how much power we possess. A dream can easily become a reality with a few positive thoughts and actions to match. If this post inspires anybody to take that step then it served its purpose. Whatever you ask for it shall be yours.

Are You Pretty Enough?

“I see so many looking for validity, that’s the wrong search if what’s lost is dignity” – Joe Budden; rapper

How many likes did your last IG picture have? How many selfies did you take to get that perfect one? What woman did you see with your hairstyle before you got it? What does your ex boyfriend new girl look like? Are you pretty enough? Are you sexy enough? Do you ask yourself these questions too much? More than likely you do!

This week the hot topic has been the Kim Kardashian naked pictures for Paper magazine… of course everybody has an opinion. The two most disappointing things about it is that she showed that this is a generation of controlled minds because she hashtagged #BreakTheInternet when she uploaded the pictures and the internet proceeded to discuss them nonstop for 48 hours like we haven’t seen her sextape and like 30 celebrity nude photos didn’t hit the internet in one week a month ago. Secondly it shows that beauty is more important than life in this generation as it will forever get more tweets than Ferguson. But the pressure is more on women than anything and no one is really focusing on how demoralizing it is to them.

I’m not a feminist or a blind man that doesn’t enjoy the female body so I’m not opposed or as judgmental when it comes to nudity, but I understand diversity. Like I feel Beyoncé and Jessica Biel are both tremendously attractive. Jennifer Aniston and Sanaa Lathan. My point is too much these days women are trying, at their detriment, to fit a mold of what all men supposedly want.  But as unrealistic is that is if you get enough tweets from males about this woman, this type of woman, or this body part of a woman… women believe they need that. It becomes programmed into their thinking. So the slim woman feels like she needs this “fat ass”. The brown skin woman feels she needs to be light skin with long hair so she perfects her make up and filter combinations. This contemporary woman feels she needs to wear short shorts or skirts and show off her legs and half of her butt. This well dressed sexy woman feels she needs to be naked sexy. The girl with the “fat ass” feels she has to be bent over in every picture or avi. All of this just creates insecurity and misdirected focus. Honestly most men like what they think other men want too so it’s a dangerous cycle. The expectations become unreachable.

You then add in the companionship façade equation. These women with the “fat asses” and no clothes on become the ones always “with” a man. Always taking the exotic trips. Always getting their bills paid. Getting all the retweets and followers. Always getting the husband, kids, divorces, and loads of child support because of the façade of what is an attractive woman they created. All because of how she looked and how much of those looks she nurtured and exposed, in essence, is why men wanted her so bad. To a woman who has been trying to find herself, and find love, and has little guidance from a good father or father figure, this is what she sees. She doesn’t focus on the fact that these females are losing as many men as they are getting because they only see that they are getting opportunity after opportunity to stand next to a man while she being regular and not being naked up and down social media can’t garner that same attention.

I see all of this and I sympathize with it. I also realize how unattractive to me a woman that thinks just being typical attractive is. “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” of course but beauty to me is more than looks. I wish more females realized that men out there that feel this way are the ones that really want the woman over the trophy. A woman can be sexier to me in hospital scrubs and glasses than in a club outfit because not only is her body in tact, her mind is also. Her focus is. Her ambition is. Her comfort with herself appears to be in tact. That’s attractive to me. Can you hold a conversation? Can you educate me on things? Can you still interest me after sex? Does your life revolve around gossip? Can you properly take care of home? Do you prioritize family over “fun”? Do you work hard? These questions normally go unanswered today because they go unasked, all that seems to matter, and at a growing rate, is are you pretty enough? Do you dress sexy enough? Is your ass fat enough? Media pushes it, social media adapts to it, women sacrifice far too much for it! Kim Kardashian has been married three times with that same body. Halle Berry has been married multiple times with the same body and face. Beyonce’s high school sweetheart dumped her. The regular lady, my grandma who is beautiful inside and out, has been married over 30 years. It’s more than what meets the eye and no one rule for beauty will always apply.

I would teach my daughter that your beauty isn’t based off of if everybody wants you or if your body is made for a magazine, your beauty is based on your heart, your intelligence, and your confidence. Your body is a work of art but the most revered art pieces are the ones that most people can't get. Be comfortable with knowing you're beautiful so you don't have show off your nakedness for validation. I’m not oblivious to the fact that every one wants to be physically attractive but don’t let that be your calling card or your downfall because every attractive woman with nothing else but a man will eventually be an attractive woman with nothing else. Don’t worry about being pretty enough for every man, be woman enough to attract the right man, a good man, and to keep your identity when you’re with that man.

Just My Thoughts           

Can We Do Better?

“You’re totally disconnected from reality, don’t believe in dreams… Since when did black men become kings?” -Jay-z; Rapper

Is this Martin's dream 

Every night a different crime scene

Kids killing kids

Men leaving wives

We putting money over everything!

Is this what Malcolm wanted? 

When he said we could reach greater heights... Did he mean blunted? 

By any means necessary 

But we don't do what's necessary 

We only pro black when a white man kills one of us... & in February 

Is this the best we can do

Positive blacks are few 

Think about it

Oscar Grant or Trayvon Martin

Could've been you 

Oprah too

What do you aspire to be? 

They gave us guns and drugs 30yrs ago 

We still on a killing spree

Am I real enough? 

Do I care too much?

I mean shouldn't more cross my mind

Than my last fuck.... & my last buck

Or the next of each 

Fuck giving a speech 

But I have a dream to make it better for my son

I can't control the world 

But for him, it starts with me

Is this the change Barack promised

Gas prices been high the last 6 summers 

My pops job still temporary

This economy took his pride from him 

Sometimes I wanna cry for him 

Wake up everyday with drive for him 

Thankful everyday that I can provide for him 

Lord knows I would die for him 

Rosa Parks sat down to take a stand 

Not so black girls can fight over men 

Or for attention, social mentions 

Baby girl it's more to life than that bottle 

You know your daughter gone finish what you started? 

Good or bad, better or worse 

Don't let your beauty be a curse 

Don't leave you drive in a hearse

If you know better will you do better

I just got to believe 

Despite how much you like what's between your knees pleased 

You should want to really succeed  

In the end we can blame politics 

But in reality we allow the shit

I don't know what's killing us quicker

Reality tv or gun clips

Maybe I'm overthinking

Maybe I'm channeling Lincoln 

Cuz I hate to see us still slaves 

Cuz we let them beat us 

Just my thoughts...