What Wo{men} Want

"If everyone is a product of this society, who will say the things that need to be said, and do the things that need to be done, without compromise?... See fantasy is what people want, but reality is what they need." 

-Ms. Lauryn Hill; Rapper; Actress; Creative

When was the last time you took your woman’s trash out at her house? When was the last time you took your woman’s car to get cleaned?  When was the last time you took your woman’s car to get serviced? When was the last time you sent your woman flowers to work?

Ok…. If you don’t know the answer to those first questions, tell me… when was the last time your woman was tripping over some small shit? Let me be clear, there are some women that can’t be pleased, I know this all too well, but right now I want to focus on the ones that can and what it takes to do so. If you ask the average man what women want they’re probably going to tell you a bunch of materialistic things, I can’t fully disagree with this but I just think its deeper than rap! What do women REALLY want? I think women REALLY REALLY REALLY want…. MEN!

If nothing else, what I’ve gradually and thoroughly noticed about women is a seemingly growing desperation to be tough. There’s been decades of the systematic emasculation of black men. The domino effect of that is the disappearance of gender roles and mainly men being men. Primary art of war tactic has been to take black men out of the household whether thru war, intentional drug placement, or welfare regulations that required men to not be in the homes and watch the structure fail. So for the last 30 years women have had to take on the responsibilities of men, regulatory, physically, mentally, financially, disciplinary all while maintaining their traditional domestic responsibilities.  The proof is in the pudding.

Daily on twitter there’s some recycled gender war topic whether it’s the price of dates, should women ever pay on dates, should men always take out the trash, what’s too clingy, who should cook, who should do laundry, etc … all it tells me is that women honestly just haven’t seen enough men be men to know what to expect from one. So in seeing this constantly I was just forced to come to the conclusion that women, even those who seem so materialistic, just really want men! They want what men are supposed to do naturally. They want men to lead them, protect them, console them, compliment them, and to appreciate them… and show that appreciation. Nowadays we get so caught up in not wanting to do more for the other than they are doing for us that it becomes competitive. That’s fear and doubt that I feel naturally women should exhibit, men shouldn’t. Men should eliminate it. However, so many males haven’t been taught how to be men properly so they just learned to be womanizers. They go with what works the most and requires the least. Men and women of this generation have been miseducated and it was prophesized perfectly by Lauryn Hill. That album (The Miseducation Of Lauryn Hill) is so great because it exhibits what was happening and has come to fruition; we got distracted so much we forgot how to love… intimately. Communication is the key. Women just have to make a conscious effort of requiring what they need and communicating what they need after themselves, thru self-examination, learning what they need. Because what they really want is often times someone to really look beyond the surface, it’s a war cry. So ladies… What do you need?